Kissing Outside the Lines: A True Story of Love and Race and Happily Ever After

20 Dec

Kissing Outside the Lines: A True Story of Love and Race and Happily Ever After

Kissing Outside the Lines: A True Story of Love and Race and Happily Ever After

Language: English

Pages: 290

ISBN: 1580053963

Format: PDF / Kindle (mobi) / ePub

Diane Farr—Numb3rs star, Loveline veteran, and contributor—always took for granted that she could love anybody she chose. But when she, a white woman, fell in love with a Korean American man, she quickly learned a tough lesson: When it comes to navigating the landscape of interracial love in America today . . . you’re going to step on some landmines.

At turns introspective and outrageous, Kissing Outside the Lines is Farr’s unapologetic—often hilarious—look at the complexities of interracial/ethnic/religious/what-have-you love, told through the lens of her own experience of dating, marrying, and creating a family with someone from a race and culture different from her own. Along the way, she exposes the many ways in which prejudice rears its ugly head—whether subtly or overtly—when you dare to love “outside the lines,” and she shares the stories of other multiracial couples from different corners of the U.S. who have made a similar leap.

Kissing Outside the Lines tackles love, family, and prejudice head-on. With sharp wit and deft humor, Farr confronts the fears and reservations that come with loving outside of one’s race, and she emerges with a powerful message: Love is love and family is family—no matter what it looks like from the outside.

Kissing Outside the Lines also includes an 8-page black-and-white photo signature.












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