Here Come the Brides!: Reflections on Lesbian Love and Marriage
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In Here Come the Brides!, editors Audrey Bilger and Michele Kort gather together the voices of women taking part in—and shaping—this major historical shift. Representing a diversity of points of view in terms of race, class, ethnicity, and gender identification, this collection of essays, stories, and visual images takes a multidimensional look at how opening up the traditional order of “man and wife” to include the possibility of “wife and wife” is altering our social landscape. From wedding pictures and images of protest signs to comical anecdotes and sober philosophical analyses, Here Come the Brides! is an exploration of how the legalization of same-sex marriages has irrevocably changed the way lesbians think about their unions and their lives—and a celebration of the dream of lesbian happily-ever-afters.
it. Allie Are you sure it’s our flight? hANNAh Flight 271 . . . Allie Why isn’t it delayed? hANNAh i don’t know, sweetheart, but we’re boarding. Allie All the other flights are delayed. There’s a big snowstorm on the great Plains. hANNAh iowa’s got nothing to do with the great Plains. Allie We have to fly across them. i saw the doppler. hANNAh you are such a weather geek. Allie i mean, is it even safe to fly? hANNAh Sweetie, we’ve been through this . . .
kind-of knew it. We u-haul’d after two months and shared a “character” apart- ment, complete with decorative, nonworking brick fireplace and an almost-view of the coast Mountains from our tiny kitchen window. HereCometheBrides_finalpages.indd 95 12/15/11 5:57:50 PM 96 Here Come the Brides We were the cool, property-value-raising, “creative class,” new queer couple on the block, and we loved it. Almost from day one, Meredith and i were serious about our relationship. We took weekend
that not getting married wasn’t going to speed up the passage of same-sex marriage legislation; only continued pressure by each of us brings us closer to equality for all of us. At this point, you might be thinking, what was the deal with Meredith and me? college lesbian phase? Well, you’d be wrong. The thing is, i realized i was bisexual at a very young age, and i was certain of my sexuality. Would you tell a lesbian who was once married to a man that she was probably just going through a
ashamed to be more specific, to say “my people.” to claim allegiance. i sink into silence. i hide behind this silence at the rally. look, i get it. i’m a feminist, and marriage is fucked up. No argument there. Marriage is to the patri- archy what guitars are to rock: essential, critical, the engine that drives the whole show. Marriage is like death by casserole. Marriage is a hole that swal ows you up, shaves off your edges, and spits you back into the world as something you never wanted
his journey, dr. Von hardwigg encountered lightning storms and oversized human skulls—but those obstacles led him to his destiny. “Six years,” i answer to those who ask how long it’s been. “We’ve been married six years. but it feels like we’ve always been together.” HereCometheBrides_finalpages.indd 271 12/15/11 5:58:19 PM old, neW, BorroWed, Blue Mary Beth Caschetta S O M E T H I N G O L D i am twelve years old when my mother starts dragging me off to the back pews of dark